10:35 pm - Thursday, Nov. 06, 2003
Song:
�All you need is love is a lie, because we had love but we still said goodbye�
� John Mayer, �Split Screen Sadness�
Elizabeth (from Pride And Prejudice) may have had the right idea, or they all did, that love wasn�t quite enough, that you had to get along famously. That your temperaments needed to be equal. That you needed to balance one another in someway or the relationship would be some big failure, and you�d be left with nothing, weather you were deeply in love or not.
Sometimes it�s easier to set up a person who will fit you best then to fix yourself to fit with the one you truly love. Before I mentioned being selfless and exerting for someone else what you would rather for yourself, but maybe that only make successful movie love. Perhaps a successful marriage doesn�t truly need love at all; perhaps all it needs is good mutual understanding. You�ll do right by one another, and live comfortably.
It�s like having a slightly good friend you�re willing to share a bed with. It might just work out better. Maybe we�re all too affected by the media and that�s where we got this notion that you shouldn�t live without love and that marriage is based in passion. Why not marry based on furthering life for yourself, or for comfort.
Look at the divorce rates, it�s not like you need to stay together anyway.
At that time, it was very rare to marry for love.
Now, it�s very rare to hold on to love. You get so obsessed with love, and with having it, that you�re willing to choke it when it�s with you just so it can�t possibly leave. And when you choke something, there�s no doubt it�s going to run away.
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